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Asset 4: Caring Neighborhood

Research shows that young people are more likely to grow up healthy if they live in a community with caring neighbors. The key is to create a safe haven in which young people feel loved, supported, and understood.

Asset 3: Other Adult Relationships

Research shows that young people who have three or more caring adults who support them feel happier and more hopeful, do better in school, and are less likely to rely on drinking, smoking, or drugs to feel good or fit in.

Asset 2: Positive Family Communication

Research shows that young people who experience positive communication with their parents are more likely to grow up healthy and are more willing to seek their parents’ advice and counsel.

Asset 1: Family Support

Research shows that young people are more likely to grow up healthy when their families provide them with high levels of love and support.

Asset 1: Family Support Asset 2: Positive Family Communication Asset 3: Other Adult Relationships Asset 4: Caring Neighborhood Asset 5: Caring School Climate Asset 6: Parent Involvement in Schooling

Many studies over the years confirm that caring, supportive relationships with adults are critical for raising young people who are healthy and resilient.

Boundaries and Expectations Commitment to Learning Constructive Use of Time Empowerment Positive Identity Positive Values Social Competence Support

The secret to helping children and youth grow into happy, healthy, and responsible adults isn’t really a secret at all. Research from Search Institute identifies 40 Developmental Assets that have a powerful, positive impact on young people.

Asset 10: Safety Asset 11: Family Boundaries Asset 32: Planning and Decision Making Asset 35: Resistance Skills

Kids want cellphones to connect with peers, build friendships and find a sense of belonging. When is the best time for them to get their first mobile device?

Asset 10: Safety Asset 17: Creative Activities Asset 18: Youth Programs Asset 19: Religious Community Asset 33: Interpersonal Competence Asset 38: Self-Esteem Asset 5: Caring School Climate

Asset 32: Planning and Decision Making Asset 40: Positive View of Personal Future

any people, my thought bubbles can get filled with negative stuff, especially when I’m worried or anxious. For a lot of us, the coronavirus has created some new anxieties and concerns.

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Like moms, dads bring their own unique and essential “superpowers” to the home. What “dad skills” might be considered superpowers, and how can dads exercise and improve them?

Asset 10: Safety Asset 26: Caring Asset 27: Equality and Social Justice Asset 28: Integrity Asset 29: Honesty Asset 30: Responsibility Asset 31: Restraint Asset 36: Peaceful Conflict Resolution Asset 37: Personal Power

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Is a gluten-free/casein-free diet helpful in treating autism? Our son was diagnosed as autistic several years ago. We've been using behavioral therapies with him, but a friend suggested that this kind of diet might also be helpful.

Asset 11: Family Boundaries Asset 36: Peaceful Conflict Resolution

Do you have any advice for disciplining and training uncooperative school‐age children? My child is now in the elementary grades and life in our household is still an ongoing battle. Can you help us?

Asset 17: Creative Activities Asset 18: Youth Programs Asset 19: Religious Community Asset 20: Time at Home Asset 25: Reading for Pleasure

How can we encourage and promote our young child's love for learning when we don't have the money for preschool? She already knows how to read and she's curious about everything. I'm not sure that I'm equipped to homeschool a child of her ability. What do you suggest we do?

Asset 33: Interpersonal Competence Asset 34: Cultural Competence Asset 35: Resistance Skills Asset 36: Peaceful Conflict Resolution

We have a toddler who is just learning to talk – is there anything important we should know about the respective ways in which moms and dads influence speech development?

Asset 11: Family Boundaries

How can we get our finicky four‐year‐old to eat what we put in front of her? We never allow between‐meal snacks, yet dinnertime has become a major pain.

Asset 11: Family Boundaries Asset 12: School Boundaries Asset 13: Neighborhood Boundaries

How do I tell my young children that their dad won't be around for a long time because he's going to jail? He just received a two‐year prison term. Is there a gentle way to break this to them and help them understand?

Asset 2: Positive Family Communication Asset 37: Personal Power Asset 38: Self-Esteem

Will my sarcastic style of humor hurt my children? I've always tended to express myself in a wry, ironic way. But now my spouse is telling me that this is going to be damaging to our kids, especially as they move into the teen years. What do you think?

Asset 12: School Boundaries Asset 2: Positive Family Communication Asset 20: Time at Home Asset 23: Homework Asset 30: Responsibility Asset 32: Planning and Decision Making Asset 33: Interpersonal Competence Asset 34: Cultural Competence Asset 4: Caring Neighborhood Asset 7: Community Values Youth

How can we assess whether or not our child is ready to start school? Can you suggest any basic guidelines?

Asset 31: Restraint Asset 35: Resistance Skills Asset 38: Self-Esteem

How can fathers help their girls learn about modesty? I want my daughter to get a handle on this concept before she becomes a teen, but I feel awkward about raising this subject with her. What's the right role for a father here?

Asset 10: Safety Asset 11: Family Boundaries Asset 14: Adult Role Models Asset 3: Other Adult Relationships Asset 4: Caring Neighborhood

My husband frequently lashes out at our children physically, and has seriously injured them on more than one occasion. I want to protect them, but I'm terrified of how he may react if I challenge him. What can I do?

Asset 10: Safety Asset 5: Caring School Climate

How can I tell whether my toddler has a serious case of stuttering or stammering, or whether it's just a normal part of speech development when he has difficulty getting his words out?

Asset 10: Safety Asset 5: Caring School Climate

How do we help a child who seems to have no sense of humor? I'm concerned about how this will affect him socially. Even more importantly, I want him to enjoy life. Am I right to be concerned?

Asset 11: Family Boundaries Asset 2: Positive Family Communication Asset 3: Other Adult Relationships Asset 36: Peaceful Conflict Resolution

How do we deal with an unhappy and contrary pubescent boy? Our ten‐year‐old son has just hit puberty, and it seems to have drastically altered his personality.

Asset 17: Creative Activities

How can I give my kids the chance to try different activities and programs when we don't have much money? I'm a stay-at-home mom and my husband works hard to support our family, but we're living on a shoestring budget. I don't want my children to miss out on life-enriching opportunities.

Asset 35: Resistance Skills

I am frazzled! I feel like I have almost nothing left for my kids or my husband, but it just feels wrong if I even think of saying “no” when I’m asked to volunteer or help. What can I do?

Asset 20: Time at Home Asset 25: Reading for Pleasure Asset 9: Service to Others

My kids are so ready for the school year to end (and to be honest, so am I). Do you have any recommendations to help us really start our summer right?

Asset 19: Religious Community

Our son is turning 10-years-old this month, and we’d like to celebrate his birthday a little differently. We’re not trying to go cheap on him, but we want to do something that focuses on celebrating him.

Asset 9: Service to Others

On birthdays, our sons are at a stage where they tend to focus on themselves and what they will be getting. We’d like to help them learn to be less self-centered and to think about others.

Asset 15: Positive Peer Influence

My son (age 13), is suddenly very interested in girls—and a lot of girls at school are very interested in him. How can we teach him about healthy relationships that don’t involve romance?
Our daughter (age 8) has just developed a crush on a boy at school. It’s kind of cute right now, but my husband and I want her to understand what love really is.

Boundaries and Expectations

We have both teens and pre-teens in the home, and I’m having trouble with all of them when it comes to limiting the amount of time they spend with phones, tablets, and computers.

Asset 27: Equality and Social Justice Asset 30: Responsibility Asset 31: Restraint

Our sons (8 and 10) are really awesome kids, but it seems like they have some entitlement issues. What would you suggest for instilling a sense of gratitude?

Asset 11: Family Boundaries Asset 19: Religious Community Asset 38: Self-Esteem

Parental love can be transforming for you and your child. But it is an endeavor that can always use improvement and refinement.

Asset 11: Family Boundaries

After a period of single parenting, a divorce or the loss of a spouse to death, many adults find themselves desiring a committed relationship and if found, that may lead to marriage and the blending of two families.